Every single relationship between man and woman is different. There are no rules that could be applied as a kind of receipt for good and bad days and situations. Everything has to be considered individually because there are actually no situations that are the same. People are different, their expectations are different and thus the relationship are various. Sometimes we tend to forget about thinking of others. Life is not about fulfilling your own ambitions and satisfying your own needs - there has to be somebody else to take care of. His ambitions, his needs should take the first place in your hierarchy. Of course, arguments and fights do happen, even in a good marriage. In my case, the first stupid argument was connected with baby cot bedding. Yes, it was already when we were married and awaiting a child. We were in the phase of choosing cot mattress from a catalogue and we couldn"t reach a compromise. He wanted a blue baby cot bedding and I wanted the green one. That is what differs men from women - they always like things that are not attractive at all! Of course the exception is that they like you, as a woman. That is a different story, I would never call myself somebody unattractive - I know my own value.